Still in training


Yep…we are constantly spending time learning through different trainings or reading books to prepare us for our future children.  It can be overwhelming to think of ALL the things that could possibly be new to us. However, we want to be prepared and at least have resources to go to when we find out the details about our kids. Everyone’s adoption is different so I have decided I can not compare my journey to others because it could just set me up for disappointment.  I just go day by day doing what we can do. Just like with your biological kids, you don’t know what you are going to have to deal with. You take that
sweet baby home and you do what you have to do. You shouldn’t spend your pregnancy worrying about what could go wrong in their future.  Instead you prepare for what you need to do for a healthy pregnancy and then when your baby is born you go day by day and do what you need to do. We all have learning to do and can’t know everything. However, it is comforting to have resources and a community of people who are experienced in what you are dealing with to help with the situations that come about.
So here we are…..taking time to learn! I love life’s journey with this guy!



When we started the adoption process we knew that we were required to attend Pathways Training in Fort Worth, Tx. So, immediately I checked the schedule and saw that they had a two-day training on our Spring Break. Perfect! Thank you Lord for showing up even in the scheduling of this training. It wasn’t the beach but at least we did have a few days away from home.

This training was very helpful. It definitely made you think differently about how you react in different situations with kids. We had gone through a training with DHS so we kind of knew what to expect. We always enjoy these trainings because you become more aware  of your parenting skills and in our case bettter teachers as well !  This was for parents who were adopting however, this could also benefit every parent!

Here is a short..very short break down of our training. There was so much…believe me you wouldn’t want to read all of it!

+ We went through some self-exploration ( how our parents parented us and learning our parenting style)

+Attachment: Secure, Avoidant/Dismissive, Disorganized, Ambivalent (this was interesting…I have some things to work on..ha! Found out I really like to teach my children…who would of guessed! )

+Parenting Style: Authoritarian, Authoritative, Permissive

+What works with older children (responses and triggers)

+Sensory Basics

+What is a proactive parent

+Connecting vs. Distancing your child

+Learned Behaviors

+Levels of Engagement

+Child’s default response

There was A LOT more that we discussed but those were just some key points. We were given tool kits to take home so we are prepared. We have a lot of information…I know what we will be doing for the next few months!! We want to be prepared so this is such a blessing to have such a great support system!

DSC_1130DSC_1131We were also fed very well and met some amazing people who are walking down the same path as our family! The training was very informative and hands on! We got to know each other pretty well! There was even a panel of adoptive parents there that we were able to ask questions to. Our agency really made sure we didn’t leave with any questions and plenty of materials.

And to top off that great experience….we got to meet a family that we have been stalking following their blog. This was a HUGE blessing. They blessed us in more ways than they will ever know! Everything in the training we got to see done in their home. They cooked dinner for us and allowed us to enjoy their whole evening routine….which was amazing! They have adopted 5 kids from Colombia and God is right there with them every step of the way! Again I can’t tell them how thankful we are for their generosity and opening their home to us! I was joking that it was a little bit like internet dating!

So, after a weekend away and lots of great advice and training……what are my next steps???

1. Practice Spanish    2. Read more adoption books   3. Dig in the Word    4. Practice more Spanish